Hey everyone! Adam, from TFG Radio, here help contain your inner daemons*!
Many people play 40k for any number of reasons. It’s usually to tell a story between friends, recreate a battle from the 10,000 year history of the Imperium**, or to compete in a tournament. These events attract a fair number of people with a wide variety of personalities. There are some that seem to take the game a bit too seriously than is probably healthy.
In addition to miniature gaming, I still play a number of video games, both on console and PC. When I was younger I would get upset when playing these games and would snap at my younger brothers all the time. I’m pretty sure they deserved it, though. As I grew older it lessened but it would manifest in my 40k games. Until a few years ago I would get upset as the game progresses, snapping at my opponents, and sometimes performing a Star Action: Bitch move. I don’t act out that way anymore and try to keep an upbeat attitude, even when losing. Unfortunately, I’m not seeing it in my fellow players. I’ve either seen, or heard about, a number of aggressive incidents in the last couple years. Examples include threatening players, smashing models(their own), aggressively rolling(throwing) dice, and pounding on the table with excessive force***.
I understand that the game, especially on the competitive level, can be a bit stressful. People deal with it in different ways. I know it not just a game for some, or that they get really hype by the competitive aspect of the game, but you sometime need to find a better way of dealing with losing, or the appearance that you are losing. Everyone is a nice guy when they are winning, or good things are happening. It is when things go against you that your true character shows. Whether It’s a bad die roll, a display on your part, or a rule question doesn’t go tour way, how you deal with these situations dictates how others view and affect your reputation. As these incidents occur more and more, you’ll be welcome at events less and less. So next time things don’t go your way, try to keep a cool head, and play on.
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* In terms of gaming, not your actual, personal life. Get real help for that.
** Although, technically, the “historical battle” you’re recreating is not real.
*** These are events that really did happen.
I agree that sometimes I lose my temper or take something too serious. What are ways you use to calm yourself?
Keeping your cool really involves keeping things in perspective. Can you honestly remember who won every game you played in the last 3 months? Think back to a few of your bad beats and think about what did you really lose? Was anything really at stake? Maybe some traveling expenses like airfare and hotel, but those costs weren’t really lost if you consider you could spend time enjoying the site and all it’s splendor and not just the games you lost. 99% of people will say no to most of those questions. If you think you really had something at stake then I’ll challenge you to help you see my point. Take your savings and go to a Casino and bet it all on some game of chance of your choice. A high stakes poker game, maybe you drop it all on red in roulette, or play black jack or whatever your poison is. When you realize you are sweating bullets as you see your savings at risk, then you’ll understand. You aren’t really risking anything when it comes to gaming. The outcome doesn’t really matter. Nobody is going to sing praises to your victory a month or year from now. So you want to know how to keep your cool in a game? Realize it’s just a game and the result really doesn’t matter. Just have a good time.